Tal Ben-Shahar speaks about love and sacrifice, where someone gives up something essential to their happiness in order to be with another person. In my experience, I believe that so many people make that mistake in practically giving up so much of themselves to make the other person happy. A lot of people struggle with being able to keep their partner happy, as well as remaining happy themselves. I believe it’s so true when people say “How can you make someone else happy, when you, yourself, are not?”. If we are not content with ourselves, and are able to sacrifice a part of us for someone else, how long can we really stay happy in the relationship?
I was once in a relationship where I did almost everything to keep my boyfriend happy. The relationship started out great, but later on the deeper in love I fell, the more vulnerable I became. I basically became a whole new person, just to try and be the perfect girl for him. My family and friends are the most important thing in my life, but at the time, he came first to me. I even did things like push my family to the side for him. My relationships with everyone else were fading because of the changes I made to be with him. I, also, became submissive and allowed him to walk all over me because I was afraid that standing up for myself would cause an argument bad enough to make him leave me. So many people, I see, whether it be my friends, or just hearing stories, do the same. They become this whole new character in order to keep what they have a fear of losing. Love isn’t about changing yourself to suit his/her needs. If you feel as if you need to change something to be with someone, then maybe it isn’t worth it. I came to that realization a year after, and after seeing me for who I really was, he couldn’t stand it. That’s when I knew that he wasn’t worth it, and that I would never make that same mistake again.
Many people go through life searching for that one person who will love them unconditionally, and make them happy. Someone they can feel comfortable around who can be there best friend and their lover. I used to be one of those people who believed that I needed to find a guy that will love me for me in order to be happy. Now I know that being with somebody is not what happiness is all about. Romantic relationships can be very complicated, and a lot of people fail to see that. I have seen so many, besides myself, feel trapped in relationships, and feel as if there’s no way out. We make the mistake in focusing so much of our time trying to find someone that will make us happy, and we fail to see, and appreciate, who we have around us already.
Sunday, October 31, 2010
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Happiness and Work Blog 4
A lot of people, today, make the mistake of following a career that, they know, may not bring them happiness in the future. In Tony Robbins video, he talks about, what he calls, the needs of the spirit. The needs of the spirit is for us to be able to grow, and to contribute beyond ourselves. I think that both of these are required when seeking a long term career, and finding that happiness with what you plan to do for the rest of your life.
So many people get confused about what they plan to do with their lives. Before I decided to major in Veterinary Technology, I had a whole list of things that I wanted to do. I wasn’t sure how I was going to decide which career was best for me. Before applying to LaGuardia, I noticed how great my love for animals is, and realized that this is something that I feel I can do and be very happy. Most people choose careers in which they feel they can make the most money, or some do it to please other people, such as their parents. I think Tony Robbins made a good point with his “needs of the spirit”, because one should always have room to grow in a career they chose out for themselves. If you plan on being there for a long time, you have to have the opportunity to better yourself in every aspect. I know that I want to be able to have that opportunity to learn many things, and grow as well. Being a vet will bring me a lot of happiness, because I know that I’m not only pleasing myself, but I will be making others happy as well, which is very important to me. I know that I will be able to contribute beyond myself, not only in my profession, but in general.
So many people get confused about what they plan to do with their lives. Before I decided to major in Veterinary Technology, I had a whole list of things that I wanted to do. I wasn’t sure how I was going to decide which career was best for me. Before applying to LaGuardia, I noticed how great my love for animals is, and realized that this is something that I feel I can do and be very happy. Most people choose careers in which they feel they can make the most money, or some do it to please other people, such as their parents. I think Tony Robbins made a good point with his “needs of the spirit”, because one should always have room to grow in a career they chose out for themselves. If you plan on being there for a long time, you have to have the opportunity to better yourself in every aspect. I know that I want to be able to have that opportunity to learn many things, and grow as well. Being a vet will bring me a lot of happiness, because I know that I’m not only pleasing myself, but I will be making others happy as well, which is very important to me. I know that I will be able to contribute beyond myself, not only in my profession, but in general.
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
Happiness in Education Blog 3
Happiness in education is very important in order to be able to stay motivated in school. A lot of students lack happiness in school. They lack motivation, and even some are often confused about why they are in school to begin with. In the reading “Happiness In Education” Tal Ben-Shahar describes his two models of student motivation as the drowning model, and the lovemaking model. The drowning model is the feeling of one day being free from the stress of school, or that once we are free from it, we believe we are happier. Students feel pressured about school, and that can really set them back, and cause them to do things that will affect their education. The lovemaking model, on the other hand, is loving every moment of our education along the way. Students feel that enthusiasm when they sit in a classroom, and enjoy everything about the work they are given. Every student, however, has their own reason why they are not completely happy in school, and different ideas on how they can be happier. What can we do, as students, to keep us motivated and happy in school? Although, we may not be able to change everything we dislike about school, there are ways we can make our school experiences worth our while. I have realized that being able to get a complete understanding of what I learn, being comfortable in a classroom, and being able to express my own ideas will make me happier in school.
Often, in my classes, I have had teachers who fly by subjects so fast, that it makes it hard for anybody to learn. In order for me to be able to move on, I have to feel like I was able to get a complete understanding of what was being taught. Not all teachers will stop their lesson to continuously go back for one student. I have learned that it is better for me not to be afraid to ask questions. How else will I understand if I don’t ask? Once I understand things a little better, I feel a lot better. If I have one of those teachers that does not really take the time to explain things, I have to try and figure it out. There are times where I feel like I didn’t understand everything, so I go back to my notes from that day, or I research it. I do a lot of research because I love that feeling of having learned about something that I had no intentions of learning about when I started looking things up. I like doing projects and assignments that require research, because it is a good way for me to learn a lot of new things. I love to learn, and I always need to be sure I know everything there is to know about a particular topic. I am a quick learner, but I have to have that clear understanding to able to catch on.
Being in school, I have found that being able to feel comfortable in a classroom, also helps to keep me motivated, and wanting to learn. Being in a classroom where everyone’s ideas can be expressed excites me. You never know what you can learn from another classmates point of view. To me, socializing in school can be a good way to stay focused. I love the idea of working in groups, as well as working alone. I love hearing other people’s point of view on certain topics. Sharing ideas with your teachers and fellow classmates is a good way to express yourself, and also a good way to learn. It also helps give students a feeling of importance in school. It is always important for a student to know that his/her voice is being heard. Sometimes, I feel that I am most comfortable when I am given clear direction, but also being able to have some freedom to express my ideas. When I am given a topic to write about, I like to really think it through. I take my time to write my thoughts down, and later organize them into a paper. I do the same when I am listening to someone speak, or watching an educational video for class. My mind tends to scatter in so many directions, so I get a piece of paper, and write everything down so that I don’t lose my train of thought.
A lot of students struggle with being happy in school, and don’t realize that there are things that they can do to make their school experience a little more interesting. So many students get stuck in the drowning side of motivation because they feel that a better school experience is not in their power. No student should be bored or confused about why they are in school. I know that if I didn’t have the opportunity to go back to school, I wouldn’t be happy. I love being in an environment where I can learn so many different things, aside from what is being taught. Now, being in school, feeling this sense of comfort makes me eager to learn. After reading “Happiness In Education” I realized that I am on the lovemaking side of motivation in education. I enjoy doing my classwork, and going home and completing my assignments for class. When I sit in the classroom, I am prepared to listen and learn. I honestly never thought that I’d be able to get that feeling again when it came to being in school. I really can’t remember the last time I was actually happy in school, but now that I am I plan on doing my best, and proving to myself that I can be successful. Right now, there’s absolutely nothing I would change. After taking 2 years off from school, I was anxious to return. Now that I am back in school, I think about the ways that I can stay happy in school and never lose my motivation.
Often, in my classes, I have had teachers who fly by subjects so fast, that it makes it hard for anybody to learn. In order for me to be able to move on, I have to feel like I was able to get a complete understanding of what was being taught. Not all teachers will stop their lesson to continuously go back for one student. I have learned that it is better for me not to be afraid to ask questions. How else will I understand if I don’t ask? Once I understand things a little better, I feel a lot better. If I have one of those teachers that does not really take the time to explain things, I have to try and figure it out. There are times where I feel like I didn’t understand everything, so I go back to my notes from that day, or I research it. I do a lot of research because I love that feeling of having learned about something that I had no intentions of learning about when I started looking things up. I like doing projects and assignments that require research, because it is a good way for me to learn a lot of new things. I love to learn, and I always need to be sure I know everything there is to know about a particular topic. I am a quick learner, but I have to have that clear understanding to able to catch on.
Being in school, I have found that being able to feel comfortable in a classroom, also helps to keep me motivated, and wanting to learn. Being in a classroom where everyone’s ideas can be expressed excites me. You never know what you can learn from another classmates point of view. To me, socializing in school can be a good way to stay focused. I love the idea of working in groups, as well as working alone. I love hearing other people’s point of view on certain topics. Sharing ideas with your teachers and fellow classmates is a good way to express yourself, and also a good way to learn. It also helps give students a feeling of importance in school. It is always important for a student to know that his/her voice is being heard. Sometimes, I feel that I am most comfortable when I am given clear direction, but also being able to have some freedom to express my ideas. When I am given a topic to write about, I like to really think it through. I take my time to write my thoughts down, and later organize them into a paper. I do the same when I am listening to someone speak, or watching an educational video for class. My mind tends to scatter in so many directions, so I get a piece of paper, and write everything down so that I don’t lose my train of thought.
A lot of students struggle with being happy in school, and don’t realize that there are things that they can do to make their school experience a little more interesting. So many students get stuck in the drowning side of motivation because they feel that a better school experience is not in their power. No student should be bored or confused about why they are in school. I know that if I didn’t have the opportunity to go back to school, I wouldn’t be happy. I love being in an environment where I can learn so many different things, aside from what is being taught. Now, being in school, feeling this sense of comfort makes me eager to learn. After reading “Happiness In Education” I realized that I am on the lovemaking side of motivation in education. I enjoy doing my classwork, and going home and completing my assignments for class. When I sit in the classroom, I am prepared to listen and learn. I honestly never thought that I’d be able to get that feeling again when it came to being in school. I really can’t remember the last time I was actually happy in school, but now that I am I plan on doing my best, and proving to myself that I can be successful. Right now, there’s absolutely nothing I would change. After taking 2 years off from school, I was anxious to return. Now that I am back in school, I think about the ways that I can stay happy in school and never lose my motivation.
Sunday, October 3, 2010
Blog 2: Happiness In Education
In the reading “Happiness In Education” Tal Ben-Shahar describes his two models of student motivation as the drowning model, and the lovemaking model. The drowning model is the feeling of one day being free from the stress of school, or that once we are free from it, we believe we are happier. Students feel pressured about school, and that can really set them back, and cause them to do things that will affect their education. The lovemaking model, on the other hand, is loving every moment of our education along the way. They feel that enthusiasm when they sit in a classroom, and enjoy everything about the work they are given.
Happiness in education is something that a lot of students lack. They lack motivation, and even some are often confused about why they are in school to begin with. What is it about school and education that can cause students to feel bored and unhappy? Some students question themselves about why they even bother showing up to school. I believe that these feelings we get revolve around situations that take place in the classroom, as well as in our very own household. I used to be one of those students, but after taking off 2 years from school, I was anxious to return. Now that I am back in school, I think about the ways that I can stay happy in school and never lose my motivation.
Being in school, I have found that being able to feel comfortable in a classroom, helps to keep me motivated, and wanting to learn. Being in a classroom where everyone’s ideas can be expressed excites me. I love hearing other people’s point of view on certain topics. When I am given a topic to write about, I like to really think it through. I take my time to write my thoughts down, and later organize them into a paper. I am most comfortable when I am given clear direction, but also being able to have some freedom to express my ideas. I, also, have noticed that I am a quick learner. I learn best when I am able to get a complete understanding of what is being taught.
Another thing that I feel is most important, to me, is being able to socialize in school. I love the idea of working in groups, as well as working alone. Sitting in a classroom full of students, it is a good way to not only get to know them, but also a good way to learn. You can learn so many things from your peers, as well as your teachers and professors. Being around other students who are just as motivated as you are, can help you continue to feel happy about school.
I know that if I didn’t have the opportunity to go back to school, I wouldn’t be happy. I love being in an environment where I can learn so many different things, aside from what is being taught. Now, being in school, feeling this sense of comfort makes me eager to learn. After reading “Happiness In Education” I realized that I am on the lovemaking side of motivation in education. I enjoy doing my classwork, and going home and completing my assignments for class. When I sit in the classroom, I am prepared to listen and learn. I honestly never thought that I’d be able to get that feeling again when it came to being in school. I really can’t remember the last time I was actually happy in school, but now that I am I plan on doing my best, and proving to myself that I can be successful. Right now, there’s absolutely nothing I would change.
Happiness in education is something that a lot of students lack. They lack motivation, and even some are often confused about why they are in school to begin with. What is it about school and education that can cause students to feel bored and unhappy? Some students question themselves about why they even bother showing up to school. I believe that these feelings we get revolve around situations that take place in the classroom, as well as in our very own household. I used to be one of those students, but after taking off 2 years from school, I was anxious to return. Now that I am back in school, I think about the ways that I can stay happy in school and never lose my motivation.
Being in school, I have found that being able to feel comfortable in a classroom, helps to keep me motivated, and wanting to learn. Being in a classroom where everyone’s ideas can be expressed excites me. I love hearing other people’s point of view on certain topics. When I am given a topic to write about, I like to really think it through. I take my time to write my thoughts down, and later organize them into a paper. I am most comfortable when I am given clear direction, but also being able to have some freedom to express my ideas. I, also, have noticed that I am a quick learner. I learn best when I am able to get a complete understanding of what is being taught.
Another thing that I feel is most important, to me, is being able to socialize in school. I love the idea of working in groups, as well as working alone. Sitting in a classroom full of students, it is a good way to not only get to know them, but also a good way to learn. You can learn so many things from your peers, as well as your teachers and professors. Being around other students who are just as motivated as you are, can help you continue to feel happy about school.
I know that if I didn’t have the opportunity to go back to school, I wouldn’t be happy. I love being in an environment where I can learn so many different things, aside from what is being taught. Now, being in school, feeling this sense of comfort makes me eager to learn. After reading “Happiness In Education” I realized that I am on the lovemaking side of motivation in education. I enjoy doing my classwork, and going home and completing my assignments for class. When I sit in the classroom, I am prepared to listen and learn. I honestly never thought that I’d be able to get that feeling again when it came to being in school. I really can’t remember the last time I was actually happy in school, but now that I am I plan on doing my best, and proving to myself that I can be successful. Right now, there’s absolutely nothing I would change.
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